In this seventh video on how to master fear, we share the purpose of mastering fear. We redefine it as energy and view it as a continuum with excitement ―two poles, one positive and one negative, of the same energy. We review from a previous video on peak performance how both the positive energy of excitement and the negative energy of fear can combine to help you be your best.
Mastering fear unblocks the fears and beliefs that hold you back, limiting success and happiness.
When you master fear, you can then focus on the sixth step in this technique, which is to have a fearless focus on attaining what you want with your fears out of the way.
Can you begin to imagine having less fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection and fear of selling? If you have diligently applied the techniques in all the videos, you might have significantly reduced your fears. If you haven’t, you might want to consider working with an individual coach or therapist trained in helping others to master fear.
Here are links to the previous five steps in this technique to master your fear:
- How to Master Fear Part I: the Big 4 Fears
- How to Master Fear Part II: Identify Your Fears
- How to Master Fear Part III: Embrace Fear
- How to Master Fear Part IV: Disidentify With Fear
- How to Master Fear Part V: Worst-Case Scenario
- How to Master Fear Part VI: Reality Check
The six steps of the six steps to master fear:
- Identify your fears
- Embrace your fears (being afraid to face fear is feeding your fear with fear)
- Dis-identify with your fears; they are not you
- Understand your worst-case scenario
- Do a reality check (with the probability of your worst case scenario coming true)
- Have a fearless focus. Now that you have your fear under control you can set it aside and use the energy to create what you want
Go through the first five steps with one fear, then create a fearless focus on a goal that you believe fear has prevented you from achieving.
Watch the video below or read the full transcription. Either way, enjoy and learn.
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Kim: We are here with Dr. TC North and we are concluding the six steps to mastering fear which you can find in his amazon best seller “Fearless Leaders”. Thank you so much for doing this with us TC. Could you please remind us of the big four and the five steps that we’ve been discussing?
TC: Yes. So the big four fears are: 1) fear of failure 2) fear of success 3) fear of rejection 4) fear of selling. And then of the six-step process of mastering fear, the first five are the mastering process and the sixth step is the positive re-focus.
The first five steps are:
- identify your fears.
- Embrace your fears – because you don’t want to run from your fear. That becomes fear of fear which is feeding your fear with fear and it’s very destructive.
- Disidentify with your fear, which means your fear is not you. Your thoughts, your beliefs, your fears are something you’ve created as you’ve gone through your life. You’re not born with these. They are not innate fears such as spiders, snakes and heights. So everything else we’ve created in our minds which means we can change them. And that’s good news.
- Worst case scenario.
- What’s the probability that the worst case scenario is actually going to happen? How do you work with that probability to lower it if it’s too high?
And those first five steps completed the part of the six steps around mastering fear. The whole point of mastering fear is so you can refocus with fear at a low enough level for you to move forward with what’s important to you. And this takes us to the sixth step which is to have a fearless focus.
It’s a positive step. What goals, what achievements, what in your life was that fear getting in the way of? Now let’s create a positive image of that and see and hear and feel being successful at achieving that thing that the fear was in the way of and now create positive movement towards what you want.
Now, I want to remind everyone that it doesn’t mean you’re totally without fear. It is the combination of fear which is energy. Look at this image –
Notice that excitement and fear is the same energy. Excitement is the positive poll and fear is the negative poll of the same energy. You don’t have to be afraid of the fear, what you want to do is mobilize it to become more positive if you can. Quite a while back we did work on peak performance and here’s how this all ties in.
Peak Performance
You see that the excitement is at the positive poll and fear is at the negative poll. It’s the same energy in the flow state where you’re at your best – that peak performance state – is actually a combination of the two. So you don’t have to be afraid of fear. Fear can serve you, it’s just energy. It’s like atomic energy. Atomic energy can be used to light up our homes or it can be used to blow up people. It’s all energy and how you use it is your choice. Does that all make sense?
Kim: It does!
TC: In conclusion of this six steps of mastering fear series – it’s so important to first learn to identify your fears. Please, if you’ve tuned in later in this series, go back to the earlier videos. You have to start there. So many people are not aware of how fear is driving them. That’s an important first step.
Then embrace your fear rather than run from it. Recognize that it’s not you, step out of it, get it outside of you to deal with, to look at it. Identify the worst case scenario and the probability of that happening. Work with those two – it’s a very powerful combination.
Last – what’s most important – focus on what you want with your fear out of the way and get a clear path to that. Mobilize the fear energy, mobilize the excitement and go get what you want.
Kim: That is absolutely fantastic. Again for the viewers, the book is called “Fearless Leaders”. Thank you so much TC for doing this series with me.
TC: Oh, thank you for doing this series with me! I appreciate it.
Kim: Absolutely! If you would like to bring TC North in for a keynote, workshop or seminar please contact me Kim Tracy at MaxwellJames.net
My speaker agent Kim Tracy at the Maxwell James Agency produced this video. Please contact her here if you’re interested in having me deliver a keynote, workshop or webinar on mastering fear. Or contact me here if you would like to discuss personal work with me to resolve your fears.
