Everyone gets stressed, frustrated, angry and fearful at times. Verbal omit can help you stop negative thoughts and general negativity.
When you get caught in negativity, or in automatic negative thoughts, you can stop your negative thoughts and purge negativity by verbally vomiting.
Why would you verbally vomit? Verbal vomit helps eliminate your negative thoughts about daily stressors such as losing a big sale, getting caught in traffic, being late to an important appointment, catching your 17-year-old climbing out the window in the middle of the night or dealing with your dog who got a stomach bug and let loose from both ends. The goal of verbal vomit is to speak your negativity so you’re getting it out of yourself and not affecting others.
Here are the rules to purging negativity with verbal vomit:
- Two people engage in a verbal vomit; one is the vomiter and the other is the encourager.
- The vomiter asks the encourager’s permission to verbally vomit for a specific length of time (such as five minutes) everything stressful that comes to mind.
- If the encourager agrees, then the encourager keeps track of time and lets the vomiter talk, without commenting or fixing. As the vomiter lets the negativity fly, the encourager says, “OK, what else?” (that’s all, nothing else).
- At the end of the designated time, the encourager says, “Time’s up.”
- Now, the vomiter must only speak positive thoughts and feelings.
A conversation could go something like this:
Vomiter: “I’m really ticked at my boss for not giving me a raise.
Encourager: “OK, what else.”
Vomiter: “I can’t believe our daughter’s flunking out of high school.”
Encourager: “OK, what else?’
Vomiter: “I was putting on eye liner in the car this morning and poked my eye; it really hurts.”
(and so on)
Encourager: “Time’s up.”
Vomiter: “Thanks for listening to my frustrations. I love you. I have a great life.”
Bonus. Guys, most women love to be listened to without us trying to fix them or the situation. Try the verbal vomit with your wife, significant other or even a teenage daughter. It’s a great way to listen and not fix.
In what situation could you use verbal vomit?
